Short-term amnesia

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Sometimes, I think my kids, especially Naomi has short-term amnesia. She will do something and will forget about it, like it never happened.

The other day, Daniel and I took her to the Dr. for her yearly checkup. The Dr. asked her if she was enjoying her summer and what she had been doing. She replied by saying, "Oh nothing, I just sit at home and color all day.". The Dr. gave me one of those sidelong glances, while I giggled like a silly girl. I spend all my days entertaining these little monkeys. They are fairly occupied most days, - swimming, skating, art, dancing, the park, library or something. So, I wasn't sure what she meant by her "coloring" comment.

She did something similar, recently. Someone asked her if she saw fireworks for the 4th of July. And, she said that she didn't. The kids actually sat on top of the car and watched fireworks from the hill. She didn't seem to remember(Or, maybe didn't think it was special enough to mention).

For Mother's day, at Daniel's school, they made a handmade gift for the Moms, and the kids were asked to write one thing that they liked about their Moms. Daniel wrote "My mommy helps me change channels on the TV". Of all the things we try to do, this is what my kid remembers!  I'm doomed at this Mommy business.

Come to think of it, this tends to happen with other kids also. Their parents might do countless things for them, but they sometimes get fixated on the one "wrong" thing that the parents do. It's like there is no memory of anything that the parents do right.

We could just say that - this is what kids do. But, adults do pretty much the same thing. We have limited recollection of God's favor. Even, if we remember, it is usually marred by something more significant, that takes up our time and attention.

We have been waiting on our green card for 12 years now. The process is cumbersome, slow, lot of hassles, with little security if one loses job and what not. It's easy to get caught up in the fact that the green card is not here yet.

It is also easy to overlook that there have been countless mercies and blessings along the way, in every aspect of life. To remember that even when things looked bleak, it all finally still worked out. And, even when it didn't go like we expected, God was still there leading us through it all.
The LORD is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works. - Psalms 145:9 

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